Why You Never Ask for Help—and Why That Needs to Change
Always say “I’m fine”? If you struggle to ask for help, you’re not alone. This honest post explores emotional overload, quiet burnout, and how hypnotherapy offers safe relief without needing to talk it all out.
CHANGE WORKGENERAL
Marc Cooper
7/28/20254 min read


If You're the Kind of Person Who Never Asks for Help... Read This
Let me guess: you’ve got a PhD in "I’m fine."
You could be juggling twelve flaming torches, on a tightrope, blindfolded, with a wild raccoon strapped to your back, and still, you’d smile, say “all good,” and ask if anyone else needs anything.
Sound familiar?
Yeah. I see you.
And look, I’m not judging. I used to be president of that club. The "I'm fine" brigade. Stiff upper lip, lone wolf, never let 'em see you sweat. I get it. Independence feels safe. Asking for help? That feels... well, like you’ve lost control. Or worse, like you’ve failed.
But here's the thing nobody tells you until you crash face-first into a wall: not asking for help doesn’t make you stronger. It just makes you tired. Quietly. Constantly. All the time.
Because carrying the full weight of your inner world on your own shoulders? That’s not noble. That’s exhausting.
Let me paint a picture. You’re standing in the middle of a room that’s slowly filling with water. At first, it’s ankle deep. You can handle it. Just roll your jeans up. Then it hits your knees. Bit annoying, but fine. Then waist-high. Chest-high. It’s up to your chin now, but you’re still waving people off like, “Nope, I’m good! Totally manageable!”
Eventually, you're on your tiptoes, breath shallow, eyes darting, praying nobody notices how close you are to going under.
This is what emotional overwhelm looks like when you’re someone who doesn’t ask for help. It’s not dramatic. It’s subtle. It’s the never-ending mental load. The invisible stress. The decision fatigue. The low-level hum of "something’s off" you keep pushing down because it’s Tuesday and you’ve got stuff to do.
And we’re good at masking it, aren’t we? We crack jokes. We over-function. We organize other people’s lives. We keep busy. Because the moment we slow down, it catches up.
But here's the truth you probably already know deep down: we all need help. Every single one of us. Even the ones who look like they’ve got it all sorted. Especially them, sometimes.
There’s no gold medal for doing it all alone. Nobody hands you a trophy that says, "Congratulations on bottling up your feelings for 30 years! Here’s a parade and a hernia!"
I remember the first time I actually admitted I wasn’t okay. And I don’t mean muttering it under my breath in the shower. I mean really said it out loud to another human being.
It felt like choking on broken glass.
Every part of me wanted to reel it back in. To slap a smile over it. To apologize for being “a burden.” (Spoiler: I wasn’t.)
But here’s what happened instead.
That person listened. Like really listened. And for the first time in forever, I didn’t feel like I was treading water alone. I felt seen. And that moment? It cracked something open in me. In a good way. In a necessary way.
That moment changed how I view help.
Help isn’t weakness.
Help is strategy.
Help is resourcefulness.
Help is strength redefined.
Now look, I’m not saying you have to spill your guts to the mailman tomorrow morning. You don’t need to slap a HELP WANTED sign on your forehead.
But maybe… just maybe… it’s worth checking in with yourself.
When’s the last time you let someone hold space for you?
When’s the last time you admitted you didn’t have it all figured out?
When’s the last time you breathed, really breathed, without carrying the entire world on your back?
Because here’s a secret: most of the people in your life want to be there for you. But they can’t if you keep locking the door.
And I get it, some of us were raised in homes where asking for help came with a price. Maybe you learned that vulnerability was dangerous. That you had to earn rest. That your worth was tied to performance.
But you’re not in that home anymore. You get to choose a new way.
And if the idea of cracking open even a little bit feels terrifying, you’re not alone. That’s why I created the Mental Detox.
It’s for people like you.
People who carry too much for too long.
People who look calm on the outside but are spinning on the inside.
People who need a safe, private, judgment-free way to let go.
You don’t have to have the perfect words. You don’t have to relive every hard thing that’s ever happened to you. (In fact, you don’t have to tell me anything at all.) My content-free approach meets you where you are, quietly, gently, and powerfully.
Because asking for help doesn’t have to look like falling apart in public. Sometimes it looks like booking a session. Sometimes it looks like closing your eyes for an hour and letting your subconscious do the heavy lifting.
Sometimes, help is quiet. Invisible to everyone else. But life-changing for you.
Let’s not wait for the flood to reach your chin.
Let’s not keep pretending that surviving is the same thing as thriving.
You deserve peace.
You deserve support.
You deserve to feel what it’s like to not be the strong one, just for a little while.
And if you’ve read this far, some part of you already knows that.
So here’s your nudge.
Take the first step.
Reach out.
Let someone, anyone, show up for you the way you show up for everyone else.
And if that someone is me, I’d be honored to hold that space. Whether it’s anxiety, stress, grief, or the weight of always being the one who has it all together, I’ve helped people just like you start to feel lighter. Calmer. Clearer.
You don’t have to do it alone anymore. You never did.
Let’s talk. I promise, asking for help has never felt so calm, so private, or so powerful.
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